So now that the planning has begun Raylyn brings up his
father, who I have been told can’t help us because of his own person issues he
is facing, but I push that behind me since I don’t know what all Raylyn has
been told about his father because he has never talked about him before. Then
Raylyn tells me that he had been talking to his dad and he can help us but he
wants me to go talk to him first. Okay so now I freak out just a little bit,
one because of the things I have been told about him and two Raylyn wants me to
go meet his dad WITHOUT him. But because I love Raylyn I agreed for me and my
mom to go talk to him since I am NOT meeting this guy by myself. So that Friday
after school me and mom go on our way to go meet Raylyn’s dad and yes I am
extremely nervous about this since Raylyn has high hopes that after I talk to
his dad he will be able to fix everything. So we meet his dad and he made a
really good first impression because instead of it just being Raylyn’s dad, my
mom and me which could have been really weird he took us to his mother’s house.
This made me feel a little bit better about this whole thing. We talked for
long time and granny brought out the baby pictures (Raylyn was a CUTE baby, you
know you have cute babies then you have CUTE babies) but after all that talking
all I got out of it was that Raylyn could try to come live with his dad but
there was a possibility that it wouldn’t work. So the next day I talk to Raylyn
about everything I learned at his dad’s and Raylyn then decided it wasn’t worth
the risk that it wouldn’t work, so we made a decision that would change our
lives forever……we decided that we would go ahead and get married now. This was
a big deal for me since I have always wanted the big fairy tale wedding but if
giving that up to get married at the courthouse was the only way to help Raylyn
then I was willing to throw my big dreams away. Now the researching begins to
find a county somewhere, anywhere where Raylyn would only need one parent to
sign since he was only 17 and his mom and step dad signing the papers, well
that was OUT of the question. I looked and looked and called and called to the
point that I broke down thinking that this was never going to work when finally
I found a little county in North Carolina where we would be able to get
married, you have no idea how excited I was. I let Raylyn and his dad know what
I found and the papers they needed to get together and we started planning our
trip to little Murphy, North Carolina.
