Wednesday, August 28, 2013

What to do next?


So now that the planning has begun Raylyn brings up his father, who I have been told can’t help us because of his own person issues he is facing, but I push that behind me since I don’t know what all Raylyn has been told about his father because he has never talked about him before. Then Raylyn tells me that he had been talking to his dad and he can help us but he wants me to go talk to him first. Okay so now I freak out just a little bit, one because of the things I have been told about him and two Raylyn wants me to go meet his dad WITHOUT him. But because I love Raylyn I agreed for me and my mom to go talk to him since I am NOT meeting this guy by myself. So that Friday after school me and mom go on our way to go meet Raylyn’s dad and yes I am extremely nervous about this since Raylyn has high hopes that after I talk to his dad he will be able to fix everything. So we meet his dad and he made a really good first impression because instead of it just being Raylyn’s dad, my mom and me which could have been really weird he took us to his mother’s house. This made me feel a little bit better about this whole thing. We talked for long time and granny brought out the baby pictures (Raylyn was a CUTE baby, you know you have cute babies then you have CUTE babies) but after all that talking all I got out of it was that Raylyn could try to come live with his dad but there was a possibility that it wouldn’t work. So the next day I talk to Raylyn about everything I learned at his dad’s and Raylyn then decided it wasn’t worth the risk that it wouldn’t work, so we made a decision that would change our lives forever……we decided that we would go ahead and get married now. This was a big deal for me since I have always wanted the big fairy tale wedding but if giving that up to get married at the courthouse was the only way to help Raylyn then I was willing to throw my big dreams away. Now the researching begins to find a county somewhere, anywhere where Raylyn would only need one parent to sign since he was only 17 and his mom and step dad signing the papers, well that was OUT of the question. I looked and looked and called and called to the point that I broke down thinking that this was never going to work when finally I found a little county in North Carolina where we would be able to get married, you have no idea how excited I was. I let Raylyn and his dad know what I found and the papers they needed to get together and we started planning our trip to little Murphy, North Carolina.

Friday, August 23, 2013

Too much for one girl to handle


Now that I have finally found out that Raylyn was living in an abusive home I didn’t know what to do next, all I knew was I had to help him. Seeing him, the guy I’ve liked for years, being hurt like that hurt my heart. So I decided that this was not something I could take on myself so I went to the one person in my life I know I can go to for anything, my mom. I asked her what I should do because this has apparently been going on for way to long and I couldn’t just sit back and ignore the fact that Raylyn was being hurt both mentally and physically every day. So me and mom came to the agreement that this wasn’t something that we could take care of ourselves so we called someone we knew who could. After talking to them we knew that the best thing to do would be for Raylyn to go to DHR and report his abuse since going to live with his real father was not an option. So the planning began. We decided that one day I would pick him up before school and we would go talk to someone at DHR about this situation.  So once we got to the DHR office we waited for what felt like to long then finally someone called out his name and he went back to talk to someone. I on the other hand still had to wait and wait and wait but at this point I didn’t care because I thought I was waiting so long because someone was going to get him out of this situation.  Finally Raylyn came out and got me and I thought this meant good news. Then the lady went on to tell us that since he was 17 he had just one more year left before he is 18 and can move out and since he has put up with it for that long what’s one more year. Okay I promise I’m not one to yell at people but I wanted so badly to give this woman a piece of my mind. How could she say that I mean really! Raylyn just sat in her office and told her it was so bad he has tried to kill himself many times just so he wouldn’t have to put up with it any longer. So we left seeing as they wouldn’t do anything for him and went back to school. Well it’s not long before his mom finds out what he did since DHR called to make her aware of her sons “suicidal state”, yeah because that’s the big problem, right? You would think the lady at DHR would have enough sense to know that when a kid comes in her office to tell her he is being abused by his parents and they don’t know he came to talk to her to not call his parents since it would make the situation worse, you would think but I guess not. Raylyn at this point never wants to go home again since he knows what is going to happen when he gets home. So with me being afraid that it’s going to get worse I go to my best friend since she knows everything and we, along with Raylyn, came up with a plan to run away. No I wasn’t the biggest fan of this idea, I had no reason to be running away, I’ve never even thought about running away but I couldn’t let Raylyn go back to that place. This was our only hope.