So now that the planning has begun Raylyn brings up his
father, who I have been told can’t help us because of his own person issues he
is facing, but I push that behind me since I don’t know what all Raylyn has
been told about his father because he has never talked about him before. Then
Raylyn tells me that he had been talking to his dad and he can help us but he
wants me to go talk to him first. Okay so now I freak out just a little bit,
one because of the things I have been told about him and two Raylyn wants me to
go meet his dad WITHOUT him. But because I love Raylyn I agreed for me and my
mom to go talk to him since I am NOT meeting this guy by myself. So that Friday
after school me and mom go on our way to go meet Raylyn’s dad and yes I am
extremely nervous about this since Raylyn has high hopes that after I talk to
his dad he will be able to fix everything. So we meet his dad and he made a
really good first impression because instead of it just being Raylyn’s dad, my
mom and me which could have been really weird he took us to his mother’s house.
This made me feel a little bit better about this whole thing. We talked for
long time and granny brought out the baby pictures (Raylyn was a CUTE baby, you
know you have cute babies then you have CUTE babies) but after all that talking
all I got out of it was that Raylyn could try to come live with his dad but
there was a possibility that it wouldn’t work. So the next day I talk to Raylyn
about everything I learned at his dad’s and Raylyn then decided it wasn’t worth
the risk that it wouldn’t work, so we made a decision that would change our
lives forever……we decided that we would go ahead and get married now. This was
a big deal for me since I have always wanted the big fairy tale wedding but if
giving that up to get married at the courthouse was the only way to help Raylyn
then I was willing to throw my big dreams away. Now the researching begins to
find a county somewhere, anywhere where Raylyn would only need one parent to
sign since he was only 17 and his mom and step dad signing the papers, well
that was OUT of the question. I looked and looked and called and called to the
point that I broke down thinking that this was never going to work when finally
I found a little county in North Carolina where we would be able to get
married, you have no idea how excited I was. I let Raylyn and his dad know what
I found and the papers they needed to get together and we started planning our
trip to little Murphy, North Carolina.
Wednesday, August 28, 2013
Friday, August 23, 2013
Too much for one girl to handle
Now that I have finally found out that Raylyn was living in
an abusive home I didn’t know what to do next, all I knew was I had to help
him. Seeing him, the guy I’ve liked for years, being hurt like that hurt my
heart. So I decided that this was not something I could take on myself so I
went to the one person in my life I know I can go to for anything, my mom. I
asked her what I should do because this has apparently been going on for way to
long and I couldn’t just sit back and ignore the fact that Raylyn was being
hurt both mentally and physically every day. So me and mom came to the
agreement that this wasn’t something that we could take care of ourselves so we
called someone we knew who could. After talking to them we knew that the best
thing to do would be for Raylyn to go to DHR and report his abuse since going
to live with his real father was not an option. So the planning began. We
decided that one day I would pick him up before school and we would go talk to
someone at DHR about this situation. So
once we got to the DHR office we waited for what felt like to long then finally
someone called out his name and he went back to talk to someone. I on the other
hand still had to wait and wait and wait but at this point I didn’t care
because I thought I was waiting so long because someone was going to get him
out of this situation. Finally Raylyn came out and got me and I thought this meant good news. Then the
lady went on to tell us that since he was 17 he had just one more year left
before he is 18 and can move out and since he has put up with it for that long
what’s one more year. Okay I promise I’m not one to yell at people but I wanted
so badly to give this woman a piece of my mind. How could she say that I mean
really! Raylyn just sat in her office and told her it was so bad he has tried
to kill himself many times just so he wouldn’t have to put up with it any
longer. So we left seeing as they wouldn’t do anything for him and went back to
school. Well it’s not long before his mom finds out what he did since DHR
called to make her aware of her sons “suicidal state”, yeah because that’s the
big problem, right? You would think the lady at DHR would have enough sense to
know that when a kid comes in her office to tell her he is being abused by his
parents and they don’t know he came to talk to her to not call his parents
since it would make the situation worse, you would think but I guess not.
Raylyn at this point never wants to go home again since he knows what is going
to happen when he gets home. So with me being afraid that it’s going to get
worse I go to my best friend since she knows everything and we, along with Raylyn,
came up with a plan to run away. No I wasn’t the biggest fan of this idea, I
had no reason to be running away, I’ve never even thought about running away
but I couldn’t let Raylyn go back to that place. This was our only hope.
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